It's almost time for our kids go back to school. Perhaps in your house, your child refuses to finish their homework, or it's past dinner time, the sun has set and your child doesn't want to go to bed.
We asked mental health professional and talk show host Dr. Phil McGraw for advice on handling a defiant child.
"I had two boys and neither one of them wanted to do any homework ever," said McGraw. “I always used a very simple formula. You do what you find less attractive in order to have access to what you find more attractive."
McGraw said, as adults, people will work because they want what it gives them, a home, a car, food to eat. Children are the same way.
"I always told my boys you have my unconditional love everyday no matter what you do. But if you want an ‘A' lifestyle, you need to have an ‘A' level performance. You want a ‘B' lifestyle than have a ‘B' level of performance. A 'C' lifestyle... It's up to you," said McGraw. “Most kids have a currency. There is something they want, something they value. To get access to it, they have to do what you want them to do."
So it's a negotiation, but it helps the child feel like they're in control and feeling some control for a child is a good thing.